Judgment Towards Others
Sometimes common obstacles that we face along this journey are the negative and judgmental thoughts that we have about others. It poses a hindrance because we have heard many times to treat others with kindness, respect and wish well for them. Therefore, the tendency to resist these thoughts is extremely high because it can make us feel like we haven’t progressed along our journey if this is how still think about others. Sometimes, we may feel like we are better than certain people – making us feel like we are a narcissistic egoic person. This tends to create a lot of guilt and our forceful attempts to try to humble ourselves. Other times, we are wary and fearful of certain individuals and their energy because we feel they don’t wish the best for us - making us frantically try to protect ourselves.
The answer is as simple as actually allowing those terrible thoughts about others to run through our minds while we notice it and let it be. This becomes easier to do once we have processed the emotion in the body associated with it. It doesn’t mean that we are bad people for thinking those thoughts. It’s just an entanglement that needs to loosen itself and pass through, just like any other issue that we deal with when only we are involved. Another way of looking at it is that there is really only one self. So, if I allow myself to think that way about the self that is expressing itself as me in order to process it, why do I resist thinking that way about the self that is expressing itself as that person? The self/soul is pure so it really wants only the best for others too. So, just allow the detox process to occur naturally and normally and let go of the excessive resistance.
Another common point of friction that makes us resist this process is that we feel that we are doing other people’s work for them. The best explanation that I’ve come up with so far for that is to just treat it as our karma – maybe a debt to repay and let it be. Of course, it could just be a distortion within us that will reveal itself over time. Be ok with not knowing. Furthermore, we don’t know what is actually going on with them and they may have to do a lot of work on it themselves as well.
